|Everyone I've talked to seems to mention that it's important to be the most dominant member of my pack, that the dog shouldn't think it's in charge. I think I'm the one that is more dominant but I'm not quite sure. How can I tell if I'm the dominant one?|
1) Does your pet get out of your way when you walk?
Alpha dogs do not move out of the way of submembers. Rank has its privileges and one of them is to stay where you're at. Do not step over or around your dog when walking across the floor. Make them move out of your way by gently shuffling your feet through them. If you don't, you're saying to the dog that he's in charge.
2) Who has the best seat in the house?
Your dog should move out of your way when you go to sit on the couch (or shouldn't be allowed on the couch at all). Alpha dogs are allowed to sit wherever they want. If your dog growls at you when you go to sit on the bed or couch, he thinks he's in charge.
3) Who walks through the door first?
The leader of the pack is exactly that - the leader. You should be the one leading the way into situations - and this includes going through doors. Don't allow your dog to barrel through the door ahead of you. You're conveying the message that he can be the leader.
4) Who eats first?
Alpha dogs eat first, submembers eat later. If you schedule feed your dog, you should be doing it after you eat, not before. Again this conveys the subtle message that the dog is in charge.
5) Is your dog obedience trained?
A dog that won't sit for you probably has the idea in their head that they don't have to because they are the one in charge. Obedience training can be an excellent way to regain your status of boss.
6) Who owns the food/toys/treats?
All of the possessions of the household belong to the alpha dog and they allow others to use them when they so desire. If your dog won't let you take away his bone or growls at you when you go to remove his food bowl, he thinks they are his and not on loan from you. He considers himself boss.
7) Who walks whom?
Again, alpha dogs lead the way and if your dog is pulling you down the street in a waterskiing fashion, he thinks he's the leader and can go where he wants.
8) Can you groom your pet?
If your dog growls or fusses over being groomed or having his nails clipped, then he may consider himself boss. Not only should all the toys and items in the house be yours, so should every part of his body. You should be able to grab his tongue, reach in his ear, pry apart his toes, etc. - because he should have no say in the matter. If he balks, he thinks he has a say.
9) Who wins staring contests?
Direct eye contact in dog language is a threatening gesture. Your dog should not want to look directly at your eyes if you lock your eyes on his. Submissive dogs turn their heads away.
10) Does your pet growl or snap at you?
These are both signs of dominance and should never be allowed - the only exception might be when the dog is ill or injured. Human aggression is a big no-no and these attempts at rebellion should not be tolerated by the alpha leader.